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Sometimes "NO" is the Best Answer
If you want to know where your life will be in five years, look at the people you are hanging out with.
--anon
SO many people ask me what it is about hypnosis that makes me love it. The answer is simple, really. I love the imagination, the power of it. And how we can change our lives with it when we learn what it truly is. I love how at any moment we decide that we can change something simply by changing our mind and therefore our perspective.
The way we think is everything. Have you ever noticed how when you are around a friend or someone who is not generally very happy that they seem to suck the life out of a room? Ever notice that misery really does love company? Ever notice that if you spend enough time around them, even if your intention is to lift them up, they end up dragging you down? It is for this reason, you must choose with wisdom whom to spend free time with in your life. Does this mean we abandon people who have troubles? Absolutely not.
Life is not a success-only venture and there are times when we truly need each other; troubled or not. To know that helping is the right thing, ask yourself a few simple questions.
1. Will it hurt me to help this person?
2. Can this person do for themselves what they are asking me to do for them? (Doing things for people that they can and should be doing for themselves is not how we help a person….it’s how we cripple a soul)
3. What is my initial feeling when this person asks me to do this for them?
In stillness, we can know exactly what to do. God speaks to us in our stillness not in our busy-ness. We need to be quiet enough in our soul to feel Him.
One way we get too busy is that we can be very impulsive in answering a request. It's old programming when we feel have to be doing something all the time or that we can't say "no" to people. Often someone asks us to do something, and we don't even take the time to wonder of that's what we want or need to be doing. In this case our perspective is skewed to "fix."
It’s okay to say "no". Sometimes "no" is the most loving thing to say. When we learn to check inside and say "no" at a time when "no" is an appropriate answer, then the times we say “yes” feels better.
We imagine someone can't do something they should be doing for themselves because they are imprinting their imagination on us. Say "no" to that and imagine what it is you need to be doing to make your life what you want it to be.
Everyday is a new day to start over with…. to begin again. January 1st is just a formality. If you don't like the way your life is going, change your thoughts, reevaluate what is draining you, and make steps to change it. Starting today. Even if is just one little step towards what you want to change. Take it.
Really take a look at how you are spending your time and with whom you are spending it. Take care of your self, be gentle and loving with your self. Then you are able to help take care of others who really need it.
IMAGINE how you want your life to be, do the work, and before you know it, you’ll be standing face to face with the life you've imagined.
Blessings,
Cat
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